Priorities in Life versus Exceptions. The Priceless Value of TIME.
© Khalilah Yasmin
It has been said that some people come into our lives for a reason, season, or a lifetime; yet it is up to us to know the difference and when to let some people go without expecting things to remain the same forever. People change. People evolve. People grow. I am from Nebraska and I now live in Las Vegas. There are constantly tourists coming and going through my town (as expected). Yet, there are also people whom I once shared city limits with in Nebraska whom come here quite frequently with the expectation that I too am going to be on vacation when they arrive. We were once within a 5 mile radius of one another and they made no time for me. Just like anyone else, my time is my most valuable asset.
I choose to spend it with people whom show concern for me year round rather than responding to a “Hello” text which is simply the preliminary bait for the announcement that ‘Somebody I used to know’ is coming to the town I reside in and expects me to drop everything to be their companion. Um. F*ck that. Oh but of course, “Khalilah is too good for Nebraska now that she’s in Vegas, “ is the simple thought of simple minds failing to realize that people whom have prioritized me are those I prioritize in return.
This isn’t out of spite or anger; it’s an evaluation of validity. Prior to leaving Nebraska, I tested people I wanted to keep in my life before advising them of my move. One of them was really important to me for most of my life. I continuously attempted to spend time with this person, yet was consistently forgotten and disregarded. I did not tell them I was moving because I wanted their motives to be sincere. I left.
Before you get upset with someone and where they place you in their life, assess where your actions have placed you.
Often times when we are wronged, we naively believe that in order to be aligned with divine forgiveness, we are supposed to allow this person the same access to our lives that they once had. Also false. Forgiveness is freeing yourself from the resentment or pain that this person caused you and enabling feelings of freedom through this understanding that respectful absence can be a form of forgiveness as well. Not everyone whom desires access to your life, your heart, and your spirit are worthy of the access they seek. Protect it. Your time is your most valuable asset. By all means be selfless to those whom will appreciate it. But to continuously allow yourself to be used and suffer through other’s actions, you’re doing no one any justice. Take care of you first so that you can take care of your purpose and be all that you were meant to.
Your changing, your evolution, and your growth only threaten those that refuse to do so and fear that you’ll be a Billboard reminder. If you genuinely want someone in your life, miles won’t matter, EFFORT does. My Best Friend is the proof of this.
My message? Be yourself. Be Honest. Embrace your growth. And give your most valuable asset to those that won’t depreciate it.
“If your presence adds no value to my life, your absence will make no difference.” – Unknown